So far, all I've pretty much talked about is Nashville. Well, there's a reason. I have to purge myself of him. There comes a time in your life when you realize what is, what was, what could've been, what isn't, what never was, and what will never be. Heavy, huh? Did you get all of that. In other words, it's time to wash away all of the fantasy, and get down to reality. The reality is, I ache. I ache for something I never had. I ache for something that was never mine. I ache because I'm a selfish, vain bitch.
Why, you ask? Because Nashville and I are both married, and obviously, not to one another. I met Nashville at a time in my life when I truly believed I would be letting go. I would be moving on, that my marriage wasn't going to survive. I didn't intend on developing any type of feelings for him. Hell, I didn't even think I'd be attracted to him. Typically, that sort of thing just doesn't happen; But this time, it did, and did it ever. I never thought I'd feel that alive again. I never thought I'd have someone who made me want to be beautiful, not just know it. See, there's the vain part.
I remember weeks, even months before a visit to see him, I'd be planning out an outfit to wear to see him. I had EVERYTHING planned out flawlessly. I would buy a brand new dress, typically. It was always a dress. Dresses were sexy, and of course, my favorite underwear. I liked my black sheer bikini underwear. No detail was too mundane for me. Even my perfume had to be perfect. It had to mirror what I was feeling. From Lou Lou by Cacharel, which I was wearing the first time I met him, to Coach Legacy, which I was wearing the day we had our picture made together in his office, it always had to fit. Always.
I would on occasion be known to lock down a status or two on Facebook, just for him-- for his eyes only. I don't know that he ever saw them, but they were there. No one but him could see them. They were usually songs, or song lyrics, but always something that was "fitting" at the time, or so I thought.
In my warped, little vain mind, somewhere along the way, I got in my head he actually appreciated all of this, and well, even liked it. Maybe he did, who knows. I mean, I'm a younger woman who's practically throwing herself at him every time she sees him. He's either the dumbest man to walk the face of the earth (no), or possibly flattered that he's getting attention, I mean, we all love attention, right?
I think, perhaps, in a way, maybe we both satisfied a need in each other. I wanted someone to appreciate me, to still make me have a reason to be beautiful, and I think, perhaps, he wanted to appreciate someone beautiful having that complete and utter devotion to him. It's not as if he didn't know I'd walk through fire for him. Whatever he needed, I would've done it, to protect him, or otherwise.
He kept a picture of the two of us on his wall. I remember how I would secretly smile to myself each time I saw it, thinking, "he's still thinking of you, you're doing something right!" But now, I don't even really know what I was doing other than playing a game to make myself feel good. I wanted to be his "dirty little secret" worse than anything, but I would've settled for a just a kiss. That's really what I wanted before I left Nashville, the man, and the city, just a kiss. I didn't get it. That's where the picture I posted above comes in. Sometimes, everything happens at once, and sometimes, nothing. I got nothing.
I left Nashville with but a hug, a few words and a promise to keep in touch. Will we? Who knows. I don't know what the future will hold, but I will treasure the memories, real, and imagined that I have, they got me through some really tough times. I miss you, Nashville. The last time I left the city, there was a deep sadness in my heart. I'm still trying to let that go. It's not a sadness I can describe, but one that perhaps will fade with time.
~~It's no surprise. I won't be here tomorrow
I can't believe that I stayed 'til today
Yeah you and I will be a tough act to follow
But I know in time we'll find this was no surprise~~ No Surprise-- Daughtry
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